This is the first physical book by me, founder of uklifecoaching.org.
It’s a collection of inspirational articles containing insights and
techniques proven to work in my coaching practice. Many will be found
on this website and in our newsletters, but this book contains them
all, and more besides, packaged into a convenient book of secrets
Physically, this book is around 132 pages of 9 by 6 inch perfect-bound
pages, in a nice glossy cover, containing around 33,000 words. There are
around thirty bite-sized articles, each carefully written to accomplish
these key objectives:
To provide easy, entertaining access to key concepts in self-development
To peak plainly and directly of real people and their actual experiences
and struggles toward happiness
To share insights about why we are internally-conflicted and why we
sabotage our own success
To explain powerful techniques which work – for ordinary people with
ordinary doubts and weaknesses
To inspire people to believe in the possibility of better, and then
to reach out and grab it
Bit by bit, this book will dissolve cynicism, pessimism bewilderment and
apathy, clearing away the distortions of our hidden beliefs, opening doors
to the reality which was always there waiting for us to be see more clearly.
Here are a selection of the topics dealt with in this book of secrets:
The Tyranny of Freedom
Western cultures have often risen above the need to work hard for survival.
We take food and shelter for granted. We have TVs and cars, and options.
But dammit – what now? Our society doesn’t teach us to take control
of our lives, and it shuns ambition and confidence. We follow the Jones
or the TV stereotypes. This is not authentic living, but what is – and
how do we find our own path? This book will help you to see your inner
compass. Knowing the direction to start walking is the step before the
The Lens of Belief Distorts Reality
We think we see the world as it really is. We call that “reality” and
resist any attempts to unseat it. But almost inevitably our reality
is nothing of the kind – it’s a heavily edited, filtered, distorted
view of the world, which, perversely, we made to support our beliefs.
We’re trapped. What we need is to recognise and then remove those distortions.
When we do that, we discover new beliefs – and since beliefs (and not
intellect) drive behaviour, we’ll see our lives change, and in ways
which our willpower could never accomplish alone. It’s all in this book.
Watching & Controlling our Thoughts
Our brains are largely autonomous. We sit in there watching
it do its stuff, we don’t even try to intervene and any attempt
usually fails anyway. Watching your thoughts is a key to understanding
why you do what you do. This process provides a window into your beliefs,
and with understanding, opportunities arise to take back control. This
is the work of personal transformation. It’s how you change who
you are which ultimately, is what’s necessary to change what you
do (and the other name for that is your life). It’s in this
Most of us are on a treadmill of one kind or another. We fly
along meeting immediate demands on our time. We’re too busy working
IN our lives to work ON them. Controlling how you spend your time
is key to taking back control, and there are some great techniques to
help you in this book.
Fear is usually the elephant in the room. It’s the huge thing
we don’t talk about that prevents us from taking action. Once we learn
to recognise the role of fear in our lives and in our world-view, we
free ourselves to look into our fear. We can recognise that our fear
is never based in rational thinking. It comes from another part of ourselves.
Recognising that, is often the first step to freedom.
The role of others in our lives is centrally important. Most
of us live in social units – work teams, and families. How we relate
to others, and specifically – how we express our wishes and progress
our plans within these relationships often comes down to dealing with
(rather than avoiding) conflict. Conflict aversion is tied intimately
into fear. Both are barriers to personal growth, and both are explored,
and techniques offered in this book.
Making Change Happen
So many people read the books, attend the seminars and buy
in to the concepts but still don’t do the stuff to make change
happen. I call this inertia, and this book tackles inertia in its various
forms, and presents techniques – proven in real coaching practice –
to get you moving in the right direction.
Confidence is a manifestation of your beliefs about your self.
Those beliefs determine your actions and in general, you’ll act to make
your beliefs true – even when those actions make you sad. So improving
self esteem is about exploring your beliefs about yourself. Tough work,
and seldom fast, but with persistence and the techniques in this book,
you can sustain great progress.
I developed the terms “life blinkers” and “life blindness”
for something I see in every single client I coach. We accept the ways
of our world so completely, that we even fail to see them at all. Their
impact is seen as the way of the world. Universally true aspects
of reality which are not negotiable. Exposing these blind spots offers
the possibility of radical life transformation, and the book shows real-world
examples to you get it – and take it into your own life.
All of this is dealt with in down-to-earth ways, in plain language, and
illustrated with real-life examples from my coaching practice. I KNOW this
stuff works; I use it daily, and I see it working daily in my clients’ lives.
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Insights & Inspirations from Coaching Practice
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Hi I just really want to say thanks for your [articles].
I am going through a difficult midlife time right now and it is helping
me to stay positive. I will surely seek your advice in the near future
if i feel i could do with your help on the way Many thanks Chris x
I really get so much from your articles which, for me, cover topics
that make me laugh, think, feel sad, happy and loads more. But you
speak from the heart and share not only your professional thoughts
and advice; I feel you come from a personal place too but you’re not
scared ‘to go there’. I find that truly special and thank you so much
because this gives me courage to face my fears knowing the world isn’t
going to come crashing down. I may be a bit wobbly for a while, but
that’s how I learn and am able to move on feeling stronger.
I look forward to your articles and pray you will continue to be blessed
and inspired by the Creator to keep `doing you’.
I Find all your [articles] very useful, and take time to read them
over & over again.
Thank you for your [articles]. I have acted on this, and am now in
a great job, and it helped to have your ‘making friends with your
boss’ type advice to do this. I stopped being angry and started to
be proactive and got my confidence back, and proceeded to go to an
interview and get a new job,
Dear Chris, I just wanted to say thank you for [your
articles]. It definitely helped me to make a big step in my life.
I choose leaving [here] and moved back to [there], now my second step
is to create my new life back home after 5 years being away.
I will need to change my goal now:-)
… your newsletters are truly inspirational and have
been invaluable to me!
This [article] was the most relevant thing I have read
…another [article] … that hits the spot! I have been doing some
reading on this subject and its amazing how life throws up these synchronicities.
Being present is fantastic its just a little hard to keep it flowing
as the dreaded Auto pilot keeps switching on! :0)
All the best Chris.
‘Great’ really sums it up. It is so good to take another
look at everyday thoughts and ideas from a different perspective –
The advice I have read so far has already changed my
ways of thinking….thankyou.